Michael Robbins video reminded me of what we do with the Rosen Method in some ways! Full access to our aliveness and awake in our bodies, hearts and minds! Coming home to ourselves. Being curious.
TED Talk on Vulnerability by Brene Brown
Brene Brown says to avoid vulnerability we numb. We can’t selectively numb emotions, so when we numb one we numb them all to some degree. Marion Rosen also said this. Brown says when we try to make the uncertain certain, when we go for perfection, when we pretend that what we do doesn’t have an impact, and when we use blame as a way to discharge pain and discomfort— that these are all ways to avoid vulnerability. Brown and Rosen say we all want to be deeply seen and know we are worthy of belonging and love. Wholehearted compassion for ourselves and others emerges when we allow ourselves the space to be vulnerable.
A sprinkling of quotes that have made an impression on me:
● “Perhaps the greatest irony of healing is that it occurs when we accept our felt experience, rather than rely on willpower or focused effort to get rid of the unwanted.”
Josh Korda, dharma teacher at DharmapunxNYC
● From a recent StarTribune of the book Everything Lost is Found Again by Will McGrath. The quote is from a memoir of a Minnesota couple who spent a year in Lesotho. “In Lesotho,[McGrath] notes, ‘everyone holds hands here. Everyone touches. Men with men, women with women… It is not uncommon for a stranger to take your hand as he walks beside you, asking where you are going or what has brought you to Lesotho.’” Lesotho is a landlocked country surrounded by South Africa. Touch is important for connection!
● The Subtle Energy Search for Meaning “Awareness refers to our perception of a situation. Attention is our ability to select an aspect of our awareness and focus on it. By putting these two activities together, our brain’s neurons will oscillate rhythmically and help create a desirable outcome.” by Cyndi Dale, Massage and Bodywork, May/June, 2018
Rosen Method focuses attention on what we are actually doing, viewing the individual in context, and connecting that to sensation/body awareness.
● In his book Brain Longevity, Dharma Singh Khalsa, M.D. defines the difference between brain and mind: “People often confuse the brain with the mind, even though the brain and mind are two distinctly different entities. The mind is “software,” the mystical and mysterious product of all that we are. The brain is “hardware,” a bodily organ that requires nutrition, rest, use, and proper medical care.”
❖ From the Star Tribune, Sunday, August 26, 2018
“Sitting for hours can slow the flow of blood to the brain, said a finding that could have implications for long-term brain health. But getting up and strolling for just two minutes every half-hour seems to stave off this decline. Scientists found that blood brain flow dropped when people sat for four continuous hours. It was equally apparent when people broke up their sitting after two hours, although blood flow rose during the walking break. But brain blood flow rose slightly when the four hours included frequent, two-minute walking breaks, the scientists found.”
❖ You may not know this about me, but I read many books at once. So it takes me time to finish one… Variety is the spice of life?! Here are a few that I’m reading right now:
My Body is Not an Apology, The Power of Radical Self-Love by Sonya Renee Taylor.
I liked this simple reminder, “You, my dear, have a body. And should you desire to remain on this spinning rock hurtling through space, you will need a body to do it.” “When we speak of the ills of the world—violence, poverty, injustice—we are not speaking conceptually; we are talking about things that happen to bodies.” Her desire is for “a radical self-love world.” That is, a world “free from the systems of oppression that make it difficult and sometimes deadly to live in our bodies.” Why the word radical? It means “of or going to the root or origin; fundamental.” So including the word radical means a kind of self-love that is the “root or origin of our relationship to ourselves.” The book is full of “unapologetic inquiries” and “radical reflections” in which to engage, so it’s experiential and reflective.
I also liked her “Three Peaces”:
“1. Make peace with not understanding.” “When we liberate ourselves from the expectation that we must have all things figured out, we enter a sanctuary of empathy,” “an invitation to curiosity,” and “exploration without judgment.” “Understanding is ideal, but it is not an essential ingredient for making peace.”
“2. Make peace with difference.” “Humans are a complicated and varied bunch, and those variations impact our lived experiences.” And that includes bodies. “Bodies are diverse, not only in size, but in race and ethnicity, sexual orientation, gender, physical ability, and mental health.” So what is considered “normal” impacts our social values. “Inequality and injustice rest firmly on our unwillingness to exalt the vast magnificence of the human body.”
“3. Peace with your body” “Your body is the body it is.” “….you did not come into this world hating your body.” “What if you accepted the fact that much of how you view your body and your judgments of it are learned things, messages you have deeply internalized that have created an adversarial relationship?” “I’m not simply proposing that you make peace with your body because your body shame is making you miserable. I’m proposing you do it because it’s making us miserable too.” “Remember body shame is as contagious as radical self-love.”
Taylor’s book is a way to root out body shame. Rosen Method also is about feeling in our bodies and appreciating/enjoying the way we feel rather than the way we look. Who we are is not separate from our bodies, while we are alive.
Gulp: Adventures on the Alimentary Canal, by Mary Roach
The author takes on things that interest her and goes in-depth in her humorous, scientific, and quirky way. She has written other books that I’ve enjoyed: Stiff, The Curious Lives of Human Cadavers; Bonk: The Curious Coupling of Sex and Science; and, Packing for Mars: the Curious Science of Life in the Void… You get the picture~ She loves the body, and so do I! She takes us on a fun ride.
❖Assessing the Healing Power of the Vagus Nerve, Self-Help Exercises for Anxiety, Depression Trauma, and Autism by Stanley Rosenberg.
Rosenberg calls himself a body therapist, which I loved right from the start. He has studied many things and most recently has been inspired by the Polyvagal Theory developed by Dr. Stephen Porges. This theory revolutionized his understanding of the autonomic nervous system (ANS) and his work with people. Porges’ theory said that social engagement is needed to regulate our ANS. “When we are together with other people who are socially engaged, we feel better. On the other hand when we do not have enough positive social interactions with others, we can easily become stressed, depressed, asocial and even antisocial.” After 45 years of following his own path, at his own “tempo” he wrote this book. He said that becoming a skilled body therapist is not so much “knowing about” something intellectually but “learning how to do something with your hands.” Still, he provides lots of intellectual knowledge in his book, and some “self-help exercises and hands-on therapeutic techniques that are simple to learn and easy to use.”
I resonated with how important it is to practice connection. The Rosen Method does this through touch! I tried to figure out how many people I have touched in my work over 34 years, and estimated it is 20,000! Lucky me.
“The body is us.” “Movement makes us human.” Ido Portal.
Keep in touch with your bodyself.